Problem or Solution

Day 88
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When you focus with someone on a problem they are having, you are not helping them or you, because you are both adding energy to the problem. You are also both attracting more "like" problems to you.

Knowing this, it's very import for you and the other person to focus on what you both want. The person with the problem should be encouraged to speak about what they want instead of about the problem, which is what they don't want.

The problem arose in the first place from the person thinking or talking about what they don't want, so the chain of reaction must stop. Help those close to you by encouraging them to speak the works of what they want.

That is always the solution.

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Problem to Potential.....Concern to Conflagration

Every problem is simply potential raising its hand to get your attention!
Some years ago I had a friend who was always inundated with problems. Whenever I saw her she had another chapter of problems to add to the tome she had previously related, until one day it just got too much. I had tried again and again to help her find solutions, but realised that she had no intention of seeking solutions; she was actually enjoying wallowing in the obstructions life delivered her way.

"Sometimes we exhaust ourselves trying to solve someone else's problem. Are we not playing the role of God? We can be sympathetic & supportive but does our Ego think we know it all by having all the answers for everyone else?"

Annie Ashdown

I must sound like the most terrible friend to say that I abandoned her, nevertheless I had my own challenges to face, hills in comparison to her mountains, but I had no intention of permitting her to drag me down with her and make my little knolls into a mountain range like her avalanche of adversity.

My friend’s greatest problem was that she was unable to see what an amazing being she actually was. She had no idea what her participation in the world, in her country, community, friends or family, should be let alone what she had to contribute to herself. Blaming the adversity she had endured, she simply abandoned herself. True, she had been through a very difficult time in life, through which her self-esteem had been knocked from here to Timbuktu, but she thought herself as nothing but a tiny insignificant cog in the turnings of the great mill-wheel in the spinning circle of time. I knew that until she could appreciate herself as special, a wonderful creation with awesome potential, I had no chance of helping her find solutions to her dilemmas.

You see, the reality of life is that none of us are just little people with concerns or problems to face; every one of us is an incredible creation with a contribution to make to the world. No matter how small that role, it’s extremely important that we make it. If we hold back too long, it will go with us to the grave. I don’t remember where I got the idea, but every time I go past a graveyard I think of the wealth of untapped potential that lies six feet beneath its surface, wasted for eternity.

Taking the view that obstacles in life are insurmountable, and therefore to be surrendered to, is a total cop-out. We make a tremendous contribution to our intended role in life when we get up and fight, seeing problems as challenges or stepping stones, rather than pitfalls. If we persist in viewing problems as pitfalls, we give energy to the problems, which then increase. How we choose to perceive ourselves has a powerful ability to generate our reality. If we choose to see ourselves as nonentities with plenty of unresolved concerns or problems, then we manifest as just that – as insignificant beings that are firmly stuck in a rut. However, if we see ourselves rather as personalities, each with the most amazing and unique potential, we lift ourselves up and climb out of the rut.

"To see your truest nature is to recognize that you have a capacity for goodness far greater than you ever dreamed, with all the awesome responsibility that entails."

Martha Beck

Likewise, how we perceive others makes a difference to their lives as well. If we view a person as insignificant, we deliver a sense of worthlessness into their existence, a negative energy, lowering their self-worth and self-esteem, but by being aware of and acknowledging their amazing potential, we are able to elevate them out of worthlessness to a higher sense of worth simply by the nature of our positive association with them.

One thing I have noticed though is that having resolved a problem once, twice, perhaps even three times, doesn’t seem to stop it raising its ugly head again. Perhaps that indicates that there was no resolution to begin with, but looking at it from an energy perspective, there may be a number of other reasons for this.

Problems seem to seek out people who show empathy toward another suffering such a problem. A person may pick up the energy of another’s pain, not being able to distinguish it from their own, and before the person knows it, the problem attaches itself to them. Often such people are amazing beings with extraordinary abilities, and once they can get past their sense of empathy, they are able to transform this empathy into an inherent ability to see the solution to another person’s pain.

To give you an example of this, the media and politicians keep talking about recession, going on and on about there being insufficient money to drive the economy. This leads businesses to believe the public has no money to spend, which results in the gullible public spending less money for fear their finances will run out. Where does this scenario end? In global recession. However, there are those who choose not to join the recession, of which I am one. I refuse to believe that the world is running out of resources; we just have to find other ways of releasing and utilising our resources, or find other resources, for that matter.

To say that there is a recession and the world’s wealth is depleted is nonsense; it’s more a case of the avaricious and affluent minority sitting on their wealth and the powers that be misdirecting their minions and misusing resources. Please, don’t believe these rumourmongers. There is a magnitude of wealth lying dormant in each and every one of us waiting to be recognised and released.

Another scenario may be that the problem needs to resurface for the person to learn a lesson in life, the import of which has not yet been achieved. If the person with the difficulty is always focusing on the problem, he is most likely missing the import of the situation. Without recognising the opportunities and possibilities the problem offers, the problem’s potential is evaded. However, once the potential opportunities and possibilities are acknowledged, the problem invariably recedes and takes its leave for good.

I’m quite sure most readers will relate to this picture, but let me enlarge on it. A child is forever being told it ‘can’t’ do this or that, is no good at things and is bullied by its peers and belittled by its parents or other authoritarian figures. It grows up to be a shy, reticent character until some kind soul finally sees their worth and encourages the disparaged individual. It is pointed out that the ‘nay-sayers’ who have so belittled them had no right to pass judgement, especially as they had not made a great success of their own lives. With only a little encouragement the censured child flourishes into an amazing adult, and like a butterfly immerging from its chrysalis, takes off and flies.

The third thing to consider is our emotive inward withdrawal when faced with a problem as opposed to permitting ourselves full expression of our emotional energy to lift us to a higher potential. There’s nothing wrong with getting angry if it leads us to a solution of the situation; there’s also nothing out of place if we experience fear, which could enable us to see the situation from another perspective, that of a challenge, rather than a problem. Once this emotional energy is released to flow unhindered by our own inhibitions the true nature of the problem becomes clearer, revealing its possibilities, opening up the opportunity for solution.

Every adversity encountered in life carries with it a seed of equivalent or greater benefit. Every problem has a solution, but it's up to you to find it! Close the door of your mind on all the failures and negative situations of your past so your mind can operate in a Positive Mental Attitude, which will enable you to have the clarity necessary to see through the mists of doubt and despondency and discover the solution to every challenge. Closing the door on failure allows you to focus on potential and possibilities. Allowing failure to inhabit your mind attracts more failure.

When you can say,

“I don’t accept or believe in failure and defeat,”

and truly mean it, you will learn the lesson that there is no such thing as failure or defeat, unless you allow them to become real. If you can look at problems as temporary setbacks and stepping-stones to success, you will come to believe that the only limitations you have are the ones in your own mind. Remember, every defeat, every disappointment and every adversity carries with it the seed of an equivalent or greater benefit. Life will challenge you; that is its nature. Your character will be brought into being by how you respond to a challenge.

Looked at from an external point of view, concerns and problems are virtual; they aren’t real. They are nothing but society’s interpretation of an unacceptable situation charged with negative energy. The more focus we give such a circumstance, the more energy it harnesses and greater it appears to become. However, if a person chooses to be more emotionally responsible and the attention given is toward resolution, the more empowering the energy it carries and the bearer of such concerns becomes more liberated and fulfilled. Taking emotional responsibility for our failings is like the match that lights the fire, taking us from concern to conflagration.

Every human being has the potential to create a conflagration in their life, burning away the dross of problems and concerns. We are all magnificent from the inside out. We simply need to stop and see ourselves are we really are, not as nonentities, but as special human beings with great potential, each with a gift – or many gifts – to offer to the world. In the last century, humans have come a long way to realising their extraordinary potential, but there is always more latent ability waiting to be released. We are no longer children wandering in a wilderness of ‘nay-sayers’; we are empowered adults on an evolutionary shift ready to ignite a conflagration of excellence.

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I'd like to share with you a video by Katie Frieling, a young entrepreneur on a path of personal growth, awakening and living a life of passion and purpose. Her mission is to make sure other people 'wake up' and make a difference through conscious entrepreneurship.

Thanks you Katie!

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That's it folks!

Time to 'wake up' and light a conflagration of excellence...